Millennial women are using gassing to help support each other at work

Millennial women are using gaspirining to help support each otzu sich at workMillennial women are using gassing to help support each other at workA compliment is defined as a polite expression of praise or admiration. Something like Nice handwriting or Cute haircut would fall under this category. But in this post MeToo era, Millennial women have taken on a new, highly exaggerated as well as highly energized way of psyching each other up when speaking to each other.This form of communication was identified by the cultural surveyors over at Man Repeller as gassing. Writer Emma Bracy defined it as, Hyping. Blatantly bigging up. Telling someone, unprompted, that you appreciated their hustle up those stairs,or that outfit, or the way their edges are laid. Sending text messages out of the blue that say things like, In case no one told you today, youre the sh-t. And that ass? Amazing . If youre looking for more examples just watch any episode of Broad City.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreIts basically taking the animated You go girl of the 90s and boosting it up by about 60 amps. After all, we didnt start answering every affirmative question with a declaration of Yasssss Queen until the last few years. Fun fact the elongated Yasssss actually came from Bali culture as a form of encuragement and then infiltrated into our world of social media when an over-exuberant fan of Lady Gagas (is there any other kind?) met her and, as most of us can relate, could only simply say a long Yasssss in a perfect combination of praise, excitement and just bewildered awe.Gassing at workNow, much of this type of speech is reserved for the comment section of Instagram or when greeting someone at brunch if they are pulling off a hat but should women, especially Millennial and Gen Z women, be using this heightened way of talking in the workplace?Bevin Prince and Brittney Levine, the ho sts and founders of theBe My Neighbor podcast, which is aimed at Millennial women, told Ladders they think gassing is absolutely acceptable in the workplace. In our opinion, were elated that the gassing subject is being brought up and even a thing. There is a definitely an overdoing it type of support, but if women genuinely mean it and respond to their female friends/perfect female strangers pictures, posts, achievements, etc. with genuine support, we feel that were all the better for it. It takes a lot for another woman to voice her support, purely because she might have her own insecurities.Elizabeth Tuke (or Tuke as she is fondly known), the CEO and founder of Tuke Consulting (and well-known p.r. genius whose clients include Malone Souliers and LBV and she was Meghan Markles publicist before she became a Princess) told Ladders, Any type of unsolicited ego boost is a means of positive reinforcement and I am a big advocate of it. I have experienced both reserved and conservative c olleagues, who withhold encouragement or sharing their excitement for others success. Hyping up, pumping up or boosting the spirit of your peers, colleagues or employees simply infuses energy into the workplace just as it does on a playing field filled with athletes.Good as goldBut why is this dramatic way of speaking so essential right now? First of all, lets look at the psychology of compliments. Unfortunately, even the most confident of humans needs a compliment every once in a while. As Mark Twain said,I can live for two months on a good compliment. A 2012 study actually found that a compliment can help improve performance with a task at the same equivalency as giving someone cash to do the same task.Professor NorihiroSadato, the study lead and professor at theNational Institute for Physiological Sciences inJapan said of the research,To the brain, receiving a compliment is as much a social reward as being rewarded money. Weve been able to find scientific proof that a person per forms better when they receive a social reward after completing an exercise. Complimenting someone could become an easy and effective strategy to use in the classroom and during rehabilitation.So this over-emphasized use of laudation could be very essential in the workplace. Plus, if work is particularly stressful or, you know, you exist in the world, gassing can be a strategy for survival. Over-the-top support for one another is something that women have used historically in difficult times,Diane Barth, LCSW, told Well and Good. Its one way of counteracting cultural and personal denigration of women t- coming up with superlatives for who women are and what we do. Plus, with Instagram likes possibly becoming an endangered species soon, we are going to need a real-life equivalency as soon as possible.Sara Levine, the Editor in Chief of Betches Media, a millennial media platform, told Ladders, I think gassing or building other women up is only beneficial in the workplace. Complimenti ng another woman on a job well done is not going to diminish your own career prospects - success is not a zero-sum game. On the contrary, if phrased appropriately for the workplace, gassing can help motivate. And in a society where women are constantly being put down, by men and other women, who better than our peers to help build us up?Blake noted, Tous, wherewerefacedwithbeingtoldNO on adailybasis, whether its in an audition room or board room, having each other as support systems have benefitedusgreatly. I tell Bevin when she looks beautiful andifI think she looks crazy (hard to do), andwecan laugh and joke about it all.Wehave gotten to the point wherewetrust one another and know that evenifweretalking aboutourpersonal achievements its not considered boastingbecausethe support is met on the other side. Perhaps if Elizabeth I and Mary Queen of Scotts had just spoken to each other in this manner they could have avoided so many conflicts (and a lot of bloodshed.) Mary could have sa id something about Elizabeths amazing ability to pull off the impossible to pull off Geisha meets Bozo the Clown aesthetic.Go deeperHowever, jokes aside, the gassing does need to be authentic Prince and Blake noted. Now there has been criticism that women focus too much on complimenting each others appearances can have negative effects and though gassing may focus on an aesthetic perhaps at first it goes deeper than that. It is just good old-fashion cheerleading with accentuation. It is as the kids say extra.Kim Palmer, CEO of womens wellness app, Clementine, told EveryWoman, Women really struggle to do their own PR, especially in the workplace, because they dont like to show off. So to have a cheerleader do that for you is amazing.So find a female colleague tell her she is a genius and should rule the world and call it day.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 l essons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

Class of 2010 Law Grads Face Dismal Job Prospects

Class of 2010 Law Grads Face Dismal Job ProspectsClass of 2010 Law Grads Face Dismal Job ProspectsAs if the class of 2010which has been out of law school for about a year nowneeded a reminder of how depressing the legal job market has been, NALP just released its Employment Report and Salary Survey for the Class of 2010. According to NALP,The overall employment satz for new law school graduates is, at 87.6%, the lowest it has been since 1996, when the rate stood at 87.4%. In addition to a lower overall employment rate than that measured for the classes that immediately preceded it, the Class of 2010 employment data reveal a job market with many underlying structural weaknesses, and the employment profile for this class marks the interruption of employment patterns for new law school graduates that have been undisturbed for decades.The employment rate has not been this low for a law school class since 1996. Another apparent trend from the data is that fewer law students are obtaining jobs that require passage of the bar exam NALP found that of those 2010 graduates for whom employment was known, only 68.4% obtained a job for which bar passage is required. This compares with 70.8% for the Class of 2009 and 74.7% for the Class of 2008 and is the lowest percentage NALP has ever measured. An additional 10.7 percent of 2010 law school graduates secured positions that prefer or call for a JD but do not demand bar exam passage this rate is higher than the Class of 2009 rate of 9.2 percent. Finally 8.6 percent of 2010 law grads are employed in other capacities.NALP gathered its data in February 2011approximately nine months subsequent to the graduation dates for most 2010 law school graduatesand based its study on graduates with known statuses, rather than on the total number of graduates. The organization determined that the employment rate for the Class of 2010 based on total number of graduates was 84.1 percent (but NALP also noted that one cannot assume that the un known statuses equate with unemployment).NALP press release ABA Journal sourceRead More Law Grad Sues Law School for Lack of Transparency Unprecedented, Enormous Law School Debt The Future of Legal Education Stop Resisting and Get Creative CONNECT WITH VAULT LAW ON TWITTER VaultLaw

To have what you want, give-up whats holding you back

To have what you want, give-up whats holding you backTo have what you want, give-up whats holding you backIf you pay attention to your life, youll begin to landsee the patterns.In 2005, the National Science Foundation published an article showing that the average person has between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before.The things running through your head are the same things that were running through your head yesterday.The conversations youre having with yourself are the same conversations youve been having with yourself.You know what to do.You know what you want.Said Tim Grover in his book, Unstoppable, Dont think. You already know what you have to do, and you know how to do it. Whats stopping you?Fear of the unknown is the foundation of all fearsAccording to some scholars, fear of the unknown is likely the foundation of all other fears. In order to avoid the unknown, most people bail on the ir dreams in exchange for remaining in lives they hateIn the mega-selling book (over 6 1000000 sold), The Easy Way To Quit Smoking, Allen Carr explains that one of the primary reasons people stay in addiction is because they fear the unknown. Even though people know their addiction is literally killing them, it has become their homeostasis. To not be in the addiction is frightening, because you have no idea what that looks or feels like anymora.Even though you KNOW life could be fundamentally better, you hold tightly to what you have. You hold on to what you have while knowing that it is the very thing stopping you from getting what you really want.And so the thoughts recur, daily. 95% of those thoughts and cycles continue, all the while you intuitively know that you are making a fools bargain.Youre giving up your dreams and your greatest potential for something you know isnt serving you.Professional film-maker, Casey Neistat put it this way, What is the ultimate quantification of s uccess? For me, its not how much time you spend doing what you love. Its how little time you spend doing what you hate.Openness to new experiencesThink positively about yourself. ask God who made you to keep on remaking you. - Norman Vincent Peale, The Power Of Positive ThinkingWhen you open yourself to new experiences, you open yourself to change. Obviously, being open to new experiences is hard. In order for you to truly be open, you must be humble.You must be open to being changed. You must be willing to absorb what your new experiences make of you.The Latin root of humility is connected to earth, ground, and soil.The words humility and humidity are very closely connected.Humidity is the moisture.Humility is the soil.Humble soil ABSORBS the moisture. Non-humble soil is hard and unable to accept all of the nutrients the humidity is trying to give it.Your life is talking to you.Its been talking to you for a long time.Youve seen the signals.Youve had the conversations over and over in your head.You could continue having this conversation for the rest of your life and remain in your safety zone. But if you did, youd always have the regret. Youd always wonder what might have been. Youd always know you could have had something better. And that you chose the lesser path.Dan Sullivan of Strategic Coach once said, The moment you have arrived is the perfect time to start out again.Even success can become a block to future success. Its easy to hold on to a particular role or identity that youve formulated for yourself. Dan Sullivan also explains happiness comes when your future is bigger than your past.In order for your future to be bigger than your past, you must move beyond it. You must stop living in your pastLet it go.Let it be what it was - the good and the bad.Take everything youve learned from it, but dont be defined by it. If you want something much bigger and better, youll have to do things differently. Said Marshall Goldsmith, What got you here wont get yo u there.Similarly, Leonardo DiCaprio said, Every next level of your life will require a different you.You can make this change.You can give up what you have for what you want.Create a list of everything you want in exchange for what you must give upThere are two main types of motivation push and pull.Push motivation is a behavior that an individual forces themselves to complete in order to satisfy a need or achieve a goal.Pull motivation is a behavior that an individual feels drawn towards.Push motivation is rough. Its exhausting, depleting, and requires constant willpower, which quickly burns-out.Pull motivation is much more powerful. It draws you forward, and actually gives you more energy while youre doing it.If you want to make permanent change, you cant do it by pushing. Instead, you need to be pulled. Dr. David Hawkins said there is a potent difference between power and force. Forcing things to happen complicates and ultimately breaks them down. Power, on the other hand, comes from doing what you know you should. Come what may. In order to have power, you must have courage. You must do what is right and for the right reasons. You must draw upon powers beyond your own.I recently pulled out my journal and began thinking of the recurring thoughts that have been running through my head.As someone who constantly seeks change, luckily, many of my thoughts are not recurring.Im constantly meeting new people, working on new projects, reading new books, and engaging in new environments.I seek heavily to create new and transformational experiences constantly.However, there are still a few recurring thoughts I have yet to address. There are things I know are holding me back from the life I truly want.So I made a list of EVERYTHING I wanted in my life.EVERYTHING I could think of.It was a huge list.I wrote about my family and the welfare, health, and success of my children. My wife and I recently adopted three kids who we fought for in court for three years.Now my wif e is pregnant with twins Its crazy.I wrote about how I wanted my kids to be happy, healthy, and successful.I wrote about all of my financial dreams. And my career dreams. And my health dreams. I wrote about the person I wanted to become and the life I wanted to live. I wrote about all the people I wanted to help.By the end of all of this, I had a huge list.I loved looking at that list.Then I thought about the recurring thoughts and patterns.Am I willing to give up what Ive got in order to have something better? I asked myself.Yes.Yes, I am.Are you?Ready to upgrade?Ive created a cheat sheet for putting yourself into a PEAK-STATE, immediately. You follow this daily, your life will change very quickly.Get the cheat sheet hereThis column first appeared on Medium.